Tuesday, 30 July 2013

Newsletter 6......29th Februray 2004

Paddy fields in Bangladesh
 
What is my job was a question raised by one of my reader. Well other then gallivanting around this part of the world and carrying out some character assassination of those who make my life difficult, I do actually have a job to do for one year (9 months left now). My job as a textile adviser is to pass my designing knowledge to the in house designer - namely Roxanna

 My NGO has many programmes for adults, adolescent and children. One of the Adolescent Empowerment Project (AEP) aims to equip young people with the skill they need for income generation and therefore a better future. The students, mainly girls receive one year's training in embroidery, tailoring, tie dye, batik, block printing, basket weaving, and bamboo and food preparation. Roxanna’s job is to create new designs for the students to work on, also check the quality of the work and market it. She joined the NGO as a kitchen helper, had flair for designing and with no training or qualification she was appointed as a designer three years ago. She is 27, very attractive and comes from one of the wealthiest family in Net……...   Not only has she the flair for designing but her 10 years unhappy love marriage has led her to gain flair for flirting with all the men in the NGO. Not a very uncommon behaviour amongst Muslim girls in Bangladesh, never mind in little Net……… where everyone knows, everyone else! For this reason, my workload has been increased to giving Roxanna advice on fidelity. Such advice coming from me, an Eastern girl with Western values, foot loose and fancy free, is hard for Roxanna to swallow. She does not and will not accept her fate and continues to question her unhappy married life? Divorce is out of question as she comes from a well known  family and the only alternative she feels she has is to kill her self and  she is not the only one with such predicament. The NGO has shelter homes for women who have gone through difficult married life. Roxanna is hoping to join the home one day if death does not  come first.

I also work closely with posh Lady Jane, born in Leeds but had lived in Somerset for many years. She is 60 and she is really an ' old bag' and she has been a pain in my neck (or dare I say pain in......) ever since I first set eyes on her.  However, she is doing at snail speed, an excellent job in creating new vegetables dyes for yarns and fabrics. I am praying that she will leave at the end of April when her contract with VSO will run out?  I can then happily continue to create new designs for the western market and hopefully you will all get to see the products and hopefully you will all buy something to help my young girls earn a penny or two?

 My Boss previously described as a control freak, continuous to be one and still lives next door to me and my contact with her is now 24 hours. I have become her blue –eyed girl, since I now dress, look, talk and smell (I use mustard oil on my body and hair, good stuff, try it?) like a Bangladeshi girl. How long I shall stay her little pet, I do hope until end of Nov. when my contract will run out? My Boss can be a real dragon to those who question her authority. She and her right hand man have both broken all the human rights rules and publicly humiliated and sacked people in her NGO. She goes into hysterics when things don’t go as planed and she is a real ‘drama queen’ with tears down her eyes when she wants to make an emotional statement or two. I have seen it all and been there to hold her hand. She will not accept that her married brother is secretly meeting my lovely Roxanna. However, fortunately, for me my Boss and Lady Jane are always in loggerheads with each other, so I can see every reason for Lady Jane to be given dismissal papers at the end of April. I, in the mean time will continue to pray 5 times a day for Lady Jane’s return ticket home to England soon.

The winter only lasted few days really for us foreigners. Now the spring is in the air with lots of baby goats and chicken roaming the countryside. The rice fields are muddy and green again, it is growing season and a lot of hard work. We had to endure our 2nd eid celebration on the first week of Feb. and we had 7 days off from work. This eid known as ' koribani eid' meaning sacrificial eid which we renamed it ' bloody eid' because thousands of bulls are slaughtered in every court yard by those who can afford to; other have to do with goats, ducks or handouts. I decided to escape Net......... for 5 days and managed to get a 40 minutes flight to Jessore ( west of Bangladesh) to meet up with Lillian ( from Norway). It was a good decision and I enjoyed roaming around the clean city of Jessore and Lillian’s hospitality. The city is near the Indian border and I was horrified to discover that thousands and thousands of bulls that were to meet their crunch time in Bangladesh were imported from India! The land of holy cow, vegetarianism. Shame on India.

                                                         Burka outfit for me in Jessore

I often feel that my flat in Net…….. is probably seen as a brothel by the outsiders because I am for ever having foreign men and women  ( some visiting the NGO some living here) for get together to eat, dine , sometimes with wine and lot of gossip goes on, but nothing much else happens to pass the dull evenings. However I do not know if there is a real brothel in little Net…….., but Jessore seems to have several !! Apparently the brothels are common sight around the border of India and the Bangladeshi blame the Indians for creating the industry, but both the Muslims and the Hindus use the service. Several N.G.O. s including Sally's Army visit the brothels to give advice on safe sex, AIDS and also look after the children born to the prostitutes. I just about managed to scout around the outside vicinity of one of brothel in the centre of Jessore. It was not a pretty sight, heavily made up women were waiting for their punters and few pimps (I guess) asked me what business I was in? I escaped the scene fairly quickly and decided to stick to my trained profession where I am paid a lot
 (£ 80 a month).

Finally, I have invited all of you to come and visit me; however I now withdraw my offer for few very good reasons. Having experienced living here for 4 months, I can assure you that travelling here is bad, I mean really, really bad. No wonder this evergreen beautiful land is not on the tourist map. Who wants to come to travel to a place where 3 hours journey might just take 9 hours? In order to fly from Dhaka, I had to leave little Net……. three days in advance because there was going to be road blocks on the way due to Muslim festival; then when I finally took the flight to India, they had lost my luggage and first port of call for me was to shop for M&S look-alike knickers and of course I don't find any.
Who wants to travel to this land where every other day is a general strike day (they call it HATTAL) and everything stops to work, including the transport. Currently there is a great amount of political unrest in Dhaka, which is affecting the rest of the country.  Thus travelling has not been easy at the best of time; important people have been shot dead and kidnapped. We the foreigners are watched all the time by the private police and currently we are not allowed to visit number of areas in Bangladesh including Bandraban, the place I visited last Oct. (the M.D of the travel agency with whom I booked my journey was kidnapped few week ago) .If you really want some of those Eastern promises I shall see you all in my lovely India in November2004  or back home one of these days?
 Love,
Davinder xxx
PS   After 3 months of separation, I shall be meeting up with my 3 men...John, Mick and Sam on 4ht March ....... I wonder what sort of reception I shall be getting from them..... all hugs and xxx ?    

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